Just the idea of “reinventing yourself” means you’re looking for grand scale changes in your life, not just small shifts.
Reinventing yourself…is hard work.
But it’s worth it!!
The good news is, once you get a taste of your potential and the new possibilities you’ll start to see for your life, you’ll want to do it again and again…
1- The first thing you should do is to reflect on what it is you want to change.
And to do this, you start by… SLOWING DOWN!
Most people who are tired of their lives and want to reinvent are just plain TIRED.
They’ve made themselves busy so as not to feel unhappy. Or they’re EXHAUSTED from working hard for things they think will bring them meaning and fulfillment. (toys, cars, houses, vacations, expensive dinners)
I know because I have been there until it occurred to me one morning that I had to slow down.
After struggling for many years with grief, loss, overwork and trying to fix what I was doing, I realized the trouble I was having moving past & forward… was because I didn’t have any idea of what I wanted to go towards. I was too focused on escaping my miserable life.
Where you focus becomes your reality.
So, I turned off my TV. Got up 2 hours earlier and started spending time on getting to know me.
How do you spend your time? Where do you spend your money? This is a good place to start.
BECAUSE: The way you live your day is the way you live your life.
2- Next look at the ‘BIG THEME CHANGES” you would like to make. You can start with looking at the things that are not working in your life. Is there an order of priority?
– Maybe you want to lose weight
– Change your job or career.
– Lifestyle needs, like a cleaner environment, closeness to family members.
Understanding all the details helps you develop a road map/ blueprint to guide you in your Reinvention. Examining my details lead me to my move to Spain. Something I did not consider before.
3-With those BIG CHANGES, what do you think will happen to you emotionally, physically romantically… financially once they are in place?
– More time to travel
– More time with family
– More time to focus on other interests, hobbies.
– It might be that you want to volunteer more
– Healthier, less stress…
– You would find the love of your life
Ask yourself do those changes give me the feeling I want? Are there connections you can make that start to look like a goal, destination, career… more?
4-Now, imagine you living in your reinvented life. How will your (in detail) days, weeks, months look & feel?
This daydreaming is the fun part! Let your mind go… but write it all down. Find photos, add new foods if that is a part of the change.
Create an environment in your home to allow you to dream (see my 5 tips here to help), light a candle draw a bath as you live these experiences in your head.
Take your time with this exercise. Revisit this it as you become clearer on your new life and goals.
5-Write your “reinvented you” start date. If you are a planner or like to use planners/calendar, this part is for you.
The date you will start living your new life.
No goals set are no goals accomplished.
Making a plan helps you be more committed to the process. What you learn from the simple process of working towards your date and how to make it happen… is invaluable!
Things will come up you would not have thought.
Having a deadline exposed me to fears and things that made me uncomfortable. Allowing me to look at them with moderate pressure from a date, and solve them… or make plan shifts. Helping me not to become derailed last minute.
6- Keep your plans of “reinvention” to yourself.
Reinventing yourself can be much harder if the ones you love or respect don’t understand. Well-meaning parents may worry about your safety or what you are “giving-up” and disagree. Workmates and friends might take your desire to change personally as a rejection, of their own lifestyle choices.
There will be a time to tell them once you have a firm foundation on how your reinvented life will appear. Later their questions can help in a “Devil’s Advocate” type of discussion.
Finally, ask for their support. It will be given easily once they see you’ve thought things through.
Have you ever changed something big in your life that you can share? Let’s start a discussion.
With love and support!