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A GOAL & Dream we’ve got wrong!

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There\’s a Goal … A DREAM we all have that’s completely wrong. Retirement

 

We don’t want to do nothing, do we? We just want to do something we love. It really has always been our primary motivation.

But here we find ourselves… after working a job or career, most of our lives …. told we need to leave and creep off into the retirement sunset.

Maybe it\’s good the first couple of years after we’ve slept and eaten our way back to feeling human again after hopping off the trail of exhaustion to get here.

But what we soon find we want is a challenge. Challenges let us contribute a sense of giving, or learning, and improving to ourselves and the world. We feel alive. We experience life from its inside workings and not from its distance view. Working on & overcoming challenges make us feel like we can do anything.

Three (3) years ago: Fortune Magazine published a report saying …the two most dangerous years of our lives are the year we were born & the year we retire.

An Indonesian author Toba Bets says, “You get old fast when you think about retirement.”

Because we give our Ikigai: meaning/purpose the Japanese word used in one of the \”Blue Zones\” were life can exceed 90 years old.

Or we do it to ourselves, with planning and pushing to exhaustion to get there. The promised land. Those glorious days of retirement. ( I believe this may have been the cause of my Stepfather\’s early leave from the planet.)

\”Together with the subtle loss of our social contact, the structure of our day, stimulation, and our story, what we find is a barren tundra in retirement… it’s cold, wet; guilt drench thought that this is what we wanted, this is what we worked our whole lives towards, this is the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. But the truth is there is no pot of gold. It’s just a pot of OLD!\” Say\’s Neil Pasricha in his Book The Happiness Equation.

The world has far more problems, opportunities and challenges then it has people like you and me to do the exciting and meaningful work of making a difference.

So what is your Plan B? What is your second chapter?

kathy camp

Modern Midlife Shifts… It’s Natural

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(Based on excerpts from the Book Wisdon@Work, by Chip Conley)

Just before my 50th birthday, I let my baby go.

Not exactly that dramatic. But it was a big deal in the sense that I’d nurtured my business (not my love life, health or family) for over 20 years. The recession of 2008 had taken its toll on my emotional well-being as well as the death of my father.

And it was clear to me that I was ready for a change.

In my 40s and nowhere near ready to retire, I found myself temporarily in-between desires & goals…

Dr. Laura Carstensen, founding director of Sanford Center on longevity shows that people will prioritize “present time” when they in a phase where they have constraints on their horizons.  Accordingly, she was surprised to find that people in their 70s are often happier and more content with life than those in their 50s, 40s, and even 30s.

She says, “By midlife, we have slain most of our internal dragons and have healed many of our youthful wounds.” & she goes on to say, “all kinds of happiness surveys demonstrate a U-curve of adults satisfaction with younger adults starting -out pretty excited about life. Then happiness starts to dip in ones late 20s and 30s when the mash-up of responsibilities associated with friends, families, infants, finances and finding time for oneself begins to take a toll. It can hit a low point in our mid-40s when midlife disappointments may lead many towards buying new sports cars or wrecking marriages. In the general leaving them to a feeling of what’s going on.”

And then in your 50s, where a grand and glorious reset can occur. Leading you to feel… this sense of lightness and a sense of humor that you’ve learned from the cumulation of years and along the way. An inter-calm has started to emerge after decades of frenzy juggling. You finally feel an increased capacity to be yourself.

But as with everything… It’s all about how you preserve it. They said what makes a good wine is not only its age but also the way you store it, the way you serve it and the reason for raising the glass.

So lets toast to the next chapter!

( More about me here )

Kathy Camp

Stop DOING & Learn to BE!

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It’s A Monday… & Maybe once a Month!!!

…. & I’m living my life as normal… did my Sunday prep “myself” for the week. Slept 8+hours… took care of my skin, woke ….did a quick meditation.., drank my delicious coffee, read my inspirations and NOW wondering what the heck I’m going to do with this lack of energy I have today …. it’s MONDAY! I just can’t get myself going.

It’s unfortunate that we equate needing rest or a break with low productivity.

We treat them like their indulgences that need to be earned only after doing something AMAZING. Ignoring our bodies telling us …something, or slow down. Choosing only to listen to that internal school-guidance-counselor that says we will amount to nothing choosing LAZY habits.

Even on the rare occasions that we do allow ourselves to drop into that space and retreat, we make excuses for it. Feeling anxious about it… feeling a sense of urgency to push through and “DO” more.

But what I’m learning now is…

I do define most of my “time “ in my life like that… needing to do more, not enough, make up for something, or you’ll miss goal!!!

FORGETTING that DOING is not superior to BEING!!!

I’ve had a life full of DOING. I’m reminded in my own words today that its time for BEING. And that my friends, I’m discovering is even more efficient in the process of becoming ME.

How do you handle what we could call “ unmotivated “ days?
Let me hear from you in the comments 🙂

 

KATHY CAMP @living_agelessly is all about #livingageless, & creating conversations around #healthyliving, #vitalilty #freshstarts & #midlife dreams. #ExcorporateChick now a wellness, yoga lifestyle coach living in Spain

Women's Getaway Spain, 2019

We need to hear from YOU!

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{Above are the amazing women who came to our Retreat in Spain, 2019.  Forever Changed!}

OK, I’m here to tell you …DONT expect someone’s to come & RESCUE YOU!

… No one is going to defend your honor, your words your boundaries… if you don’t RESPECT them yourself!
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That means with your man, your kids your grandkids, at your job or with your government… The quicker you understand that the faster you can regain or gain control of your destiny.
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There is a lot of power in ownership

…a power that’s worth exploring in creating this authentic Life Experience… called YOU!

BUT, It can be easier said than done. There is a lot of fear that goes along with that power.  And the Ego is very helpful in pointing out all your weaknesses.

So don’t believe it when you hear that little voice in your head saying; I’m not Good Enough,  I must be wrong because there is so much resistance, I don’t deserve this… because they are all from your EGO… to keep you looking outside instead of INSIDE for approval.

The choice is yours it is always will be yours when or how. It doesn’t have to be loud or brutal as we so often see expressed to be effective.

Now go my Queen … my princess warrior. Who wakes every morning smart, with an un-met dream in her heart! … Go slay those dragons… find your voice, because the world needs to hear from you.

 

KATHY CAMP @iam_living_agelessly is all about #livingageless, & creating conversations around #healthyliving, #vitalilty #freshstarts & #midlife dreams. #ExcorporateChick now a wellness, yoga lifestyle coach living in Spain

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