The Myth Of Having It All.

…STILL, PINCHING MYSELF.
I can’t believe I’m living in beautiful Spain in a fantastic relationship and a new career.

It’s been eight years since I made my move. To a dream place, I’d fantasized about for years. ( The vision boards and all!)

There is nothing extraordinary about my life that got me here just a realization.  A WAKE UP that started me questioning everything I’d believe.

My generation was a part of the generation influenced by the “Charlie Girl” and “fry it up in a pan… never forget he’s a MAN!” advertisements. We opened the doors and walked idealistically into the boardroom thinking we could have it all only later in life thinking we missed something.

It wasn’t supposed to be this hard.

We thought we would find what was missing in our mother’s lives by blindly following the path of a career whose only reference we had was our father’s (a man’s). Thinking all we had to do was show up and take what was ours. Later to be confusion and exhaustion when we were adding in having or not having children and being the perfect wife.

It wasn’t supposed to be this hard!!

I didn’t lose my job; I didn’t have a traumatic event, or…thank goodness did I become ill to cause me to reflect. I just wanted to see if there could be more to my life than working a pre-prescribed career path while I accumulated things as my reward.

Something that didn’t require me to ignoring or choice from my biological instincts or desires… so I’d be taken seriously.

So what-the-hell is my life about?  Wasn’t I suppose to be able to have it all?

I put down my WONDER WOMAN weapons & defenses and became me, a woman vulnerable and real. I did that in Spain. In a culture & environment that I didn’t know and wouldn’t have any expectations of me.

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There’s a conversation that still needs to happen

Among the millions of women are or were affected. Instead of just about the pieces… like sexual harassment, equal pay that come up now and then we need to talk about it all.

In my opinion, we should share, deconstruct and eliminate the myth told to us. Rebuilding women’s past experiences from shared conversations so that unspoken shame, loss or lack are not part of their new lives.

There’s a Life MBA in me and a spiritual seeker.

I desire to share all that I have learned to help other women in my generation understand & reinvent their unique lives with all parts of them… their wombs, the boardrooms, in their relationships in being a mother or not.

To do what they love… what makes them uniquely great all while in balance and whole.

Because the thing is, it’s continuing THE MYTH of being forever beautiful while you have world recognition in a successful career & a happy husband, full-on sex while raising well-adjusted children. It’s in marketing, TV and social media, the market of PERFECTION.

The young women in our lives are tweaking it bit, but it still with this idea of living PERFECTION.

Maybe it’s time for us the generation who freshly remembers and still feels it from decades of not being enough, to become amazing examples and mentors in truth-telling for the girls and young women in our lives.  It’s time we live better, happier.

Are you a woman of my same generation?  Did you feel the same?  What would you tell the young women in your life that might help them?