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April 2019

When is the Perfect time to start living?

When is the Perfect time to start living?

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“I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life, and I never let it keep me from doing a single thing I wanted to do.” -Georgia O’Keeffe

Ring a bell?

Listen. I know when we imagined ourselves in our future, we believed we’d be happier, hotter (as in that timeless, beautiful Sofia Lauren sense), content with our money situation, more confident, less busy, less stressed, more READY & will to go for what we wanted.

So we continue to wait.

We wait for another time for it all to arrive. With all its improved circumstances, all its upgraded feelings of willingness and courage, and we tell ourselves … that’s when I’ll do it!

We hold out for later. Then we start to realize at a certain age later will be here sooner than we think.

I get it. Honestly. And I appreciate that fear can be a frickin monster … & it can be really had to face.

And that’s OK. 

Moving slowly is OK. Find your own speed. But sure be your still “MOVING.”

Because waiting until you feel absolutely ready is Risky-in-this-Game of life. It’s the hard truth, and there are no guarantees that you would get hurt if you don’t participate.

I’m sharing it because I want you to have whatever you want.

Please don’t wait to feel ready. Don’t wait for that fearlessness. To finally arrive. Instead, look at it in the face. Take a big deep breath and just for a moment when you know you\’re ready to make a change…try this exercise I\’ve used with success.

Imagine the absolute worst

…that can happen in a situation that usually stops you from going forward with a decision, or what you want. Think of all the details that could happen …BUT probably won\’t. And then… exhale after another big breath and LET IT GO.

What happens is we get “locked and loaded” to think and plan for the worst possible scenario whenever we think of moving towards the things we love. It\’s a primitive safety mechanism.  Then they cook inside in there primitive infancy. Without the real rational exploration that can happen if we really think it all the way through. 

And when we do, moving through the scariness of allowing ourselves to go down that monstrous imaginative scenario  …in a strange way it loses its power. ( I do this & have done it in the past.)

This can even work in meditation… when you find your mind drifting towards sad or scary territory. Try it make sure you’re in a safe place and make sure that you have a way to let go & you can come back to the reality of a safe and warm place and knowing.

PLEASE A PERSONAL NOTE: ( if you find this really challenging and makes you anxious STOP… there’s nothing wrong with having a professional help guide you through this.)

This is your gentle nudge that life is not a dress rehearsal. Don’t put off what you want most and think you cannot have now.

What ways do you use to help you with moving past fear?  Love to hear from you in the comments.

 

 

\"KathyLiving_Agelessly Kathy Camp is all about #livingageless, & creating conversations around #healthyliving, #vitalilty #freshstarts & #midlife dreams. #excorporatechick now wellness, yoga, lifestyle coach living the life in Spain!

 

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A GOAL & Dream we’ve got wrong!

A GOAL & Dream we’ve got wrong!

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There\’s a Goal … A DREAM we all have that’s completely wrong. Retirement

 

We don’t want to do nothing, do we? We just want to do something we love. It really has always been our primary motivation.

But here we find ourselves… after working a job or career, most of our lives …. told we need to leave and creep off into the retirement sunset.

Maybe it\’s good the first couple of years after we’ve slept and eaten our way back to feeling human again after hopping off the trail of exhaustion to get here.

But what we soon find we want is a challenge. Challenges let us contribute a sense of giving, or learning, and improving to ourselves and the world. We feel alive. We experience life from its inside workings and not from its distance view. Working on & overcoming challenges make us feel like we can do anything.

Three (3) years ago: Fortune Magazine published a report saying …the two most dangerous years of our lives are the year we were born & the year we retire.

An Indonesian author Toba Bets says, “You get old fast when you think about retirement.”

Because we give our Ikigai: meaning/purpose the Japanese word used in one of the \”Blue Zones\” were life can exceed 90 years old.

Or we do it to ourselves, with planning and pushing to exhaustion to get there. The promised land. Those glorious days of retirement. ( I believe this may have been the cause of my Stepfather\’s early leave from the planet.)

\”Together with the subtle loss of our social contact, the structure of our day, stimulation, and our story, what we find is a barren tundra in retirement… it’s cold, wet; guilt drench thought that this is what we wanted, this is what we worked our whole lives towards, this is the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. But the truth is there is no pot of gold. It’s just a pot of OLD!\” Say\’s Neil Pasricha in his Book The Happiness Equation.

The world has far more problems, opportunities and challenges then it has people like you and me to do the exciting and meaningful work of making a difference.

So what is your Plan B? What is your second chapter?

Kathy Camp

This might be the reason we met.

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There’s a reason we met. A reason that we continue to hang out … or hang on to each’s contact information.

Maybe it’s to be inspired… or to learn if you would like to move to another country. (And for that I’m glad you’re here & would love to support you.)

But what I really feel led to do is to help anyone or everyone of a certain beautiful AGE to discover their own next chapter. To throw age definition to the wind and live without limitations as they dream.

The journey I’ve been on for the last 10 years… has not only been about discovering the European lifestyle but more importantly about self-discovery. … In hopes of crossing the finish line with a well lived & meaningful life.

Exactly what you want … right?

Many of us reach a pivot moment when we realize that there must be more to life than our daily routines. I had one of those moments … I should say I’ve had several of those moments and in each, I surrendered to the temptation to ignore and carry-on.

Even with the first inkling of wanting there are plenty of reasons why our lives are the way they are and right THEN … the timing wasn’t right, or your too busy, & family needs. Etc

BUT what happens when the timing becomes right & we no longer want to wait? That’s what my journey was about.

I arrived at my own turning point about 15 years ago, where I had to decide whether to keep on going with what I was already doing …running a successful interior design biz that had run its course in encompassing all my passions or make a critical turn.

I chose to turn. I dare to dream about an exciting next chapter and then I worked like crazy to make it happen. I’m now living that dream in another country sharing my love of yoga, meditation, wellness and business coaching in my mother tongue with other Expats living in Spain. And now with 3 years under my belt moving forward on my deepest desire which is to inspire other Ageless .. like-minded women as burned out or as confused as I was to change.

Along the way I have encountered many women and men in life & who are in the same place I used to be, who are hungry for tools, ideas and the courage to switch careers, create their own next chapters and seek out a new life.

In each Instagram /blog post, I share concepts & lessons I’ve learned along this road with fascinating and uplifting stories of experiences that have affirmed those lessons.

The evolution of the Getaway/Retreat was natural. Combining my love of beautiful interiors, exotic places, authentic cultural experiences with great locally grown foods & wines. Then layered on top is the deep-diving teachings in the group practices and private journal exercises… based on what was pivotal in jump-starting my most profound growth & change.

In the Getaway/Retreat, I wanted to create a place where we can all meet face to face in an environment of impressive history, disarming smiling inhabitants & language and un-Western daily rituals. Helping us to imagine wandering down on the alternative road more fully.

Everyone’s journey is their own private journey. But hearing the stories and experiences of other like-minded women opens something up in each of us as we share in the retreat over a glass of wine and some beautiful traditional food in a Spanish Palace.

Your idea may be in its infancy. You may not have an idea at all. All are Beautiful seeds that can be planted in the tapestry of the whole where you leave with the start of something new.

This retreat is for people who are asking what comes next for me. For people who have a longing to make a significant change in their lives. But felt they lack time to focus on doing it. For anyone who has ever wondered what it would be like to actually live their dream … who has asked what-if?

The women who come to my retreats, in Spain have already done a thing or two. They might be in a job that is thrilling and would love to tweak its growth. Or they may be in a job that they’re feeling like they’re winding down from and wonder what’s next. Or their mothers whose children’s have moved on into their own adventures, and leaving a gap and a whole life ahead of them to live. Others come to my retreat who have achieved the goal they set for themselves, yet find that something is missing now they’re finally reaching the top.

Women turn up who are searching to igniting their passion for living once again. Others find they want to do something good for so much of the need that they see out there.

Trust that you are on the right crossroads. That you don’t wanna keep on moving through the motions anymore without really investing time & space to decide what’s next for you in your Next Chapter.

To feel alive in your gifts and contributions.

So I invite you to come share enjoy dance, journaling, meditate. Open your heart to what is possible for you. With the loving support and communion with other like-minded women.

Love a light my friends in this adventure called life.
Kathy 

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